Some concepts are best represented in graph form.
In this case, optimum female partner age for the irrepressible Neil.
Matt: what age-gap, if any, do you think there will be between you and your wife? Neil: max 10 years, you have to guess which way Matt: younger Neil: yup Matt: you'd be cool with 9 years difference? Neil: well it depends on the age of marriage Matt: I went through a while of being worried about the (5.5 years) difference between lauren and I Neil: 16 to 25 = no. 30 to 39 = fine. Matt: well indeed Matt: but that means you're not getting married for another... uh... 16 years? Matt: or thereabouts Matt: that's a long time Neil: In truth, I never intend to be married. Neil: Long term relationship fine, but no, not marriage. Matt: well ok, live-in serious long-term relationship Neil: I said 'max' 10 year difference, that'd be in exceptional circumstances Matt: indeed Neil: in reality I'd go with 1-4 years younger Neil: at my current age Neil: scaling up as I get older Matt: graph me Neil: ^ Partner Age | _ | _ | _ | _ | _ |_ |___________________> My age Neil: I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS Matt: a little oddly worded, but I get your drift Matt: I LIKE THE CUT OF YOUR JIB Matt: so am I on the curve so far? Matt: I'm 28, she's 5.5 years younger Matt: I guess I'm ahead of the curve Neil: You're not in pervert range. Matt: resultio